Okay, so pretending to live a life is a touch exaggerated. But what I really want to know is whether or not you are living your most honest life possible. So many of us are caught up in the rat race of trying to make ends meet that we have lost sight of who we are and have fallen in line with routine, therefore losing our feeling of joy and purpose.
Thanks to social media and comparisonitis, an increasing number of people are putting on for others and trying too hard to keep up with the Joneses, much to their own disadvantage.
If you live an inauthentic life, it means that you are not being true to yourself and your convictions. A phony life is one that is lived in order to please others, but which does not satisfy the individual. When you choose to live more genuinely, you are making the decision to accept yourself as you are, with all of your flaws and assets.
As a result, you make decisions that are consistent with your values, beliefs, and principles, and you refrain from engaging in self-defeating behaviors that impede your capacity to achieve your objectives.
To live an authentic life, one that is not a lie to yourself or others, it is necessary to be well acquainted with oneself, to act in ways that are consistent with one’s convictions, and to refrain from criticizing oneself and others for being less than perfect creatures.
The question is, how can you tell the difference between a fabricated life and a one that is actually authentic? Here are six warning indicators that you should be on the lookout for.
1. You spend money on things to help you “cope” with your life.
Whether it’s expensive dinners, manicures, massages, or new clothes, if part of you feels the need to engage in “retail therapy” just to relieve stress or get through your week, chances are you are not living your most authentic life.
When you aren’t being true to yourself, you make choices in your personal and professional life that are not aligned with your beliefs or values and it creates stress.
These friction points build up, and eventually, you need to let off some steam. If you find yourself seeking out ways to spend money to feel better, you may be leading a fake life.
Purchases of indulgence and luxury should be done from a place of joy and abundance, not a crux to make up for stress. Instead, find the cause of the stress and work at eliminating it from your life and choose more mindful ways to release the stress meanwhile.
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2. You live your life just waiting for your next vacation.
If you spend your days counting down the minutes until 5:00, your weeks counting down the minutes until Friday, and your months daydreaming about your next trip, you may not be living your most true life. When your life is a lie, you feel the urge to “get away” from it, and you spend a lot of time thinking how much happier you would be when you aren’t surrounded by the stresses of everyday life.
As long as you are living your life in accordance with your principles and beliefs, you will not feel the need to organize extravagant trips and stay away for weeks at a time just to unwind. When you enjoy your life and are living according to your actual desires and ideals, you will not require an escape in order to be content. Every morning when you get out of bed, happiness is there waiting for you to embrace it.
3. You never have time.
Whenever you are leading an inauthentic life, there is never a sufficient amount of time available for socializing, working out, engaging in hobbies and other recreational activities, or focusing on your own personal development.
As a result of your phony life, you may find it difficult to find peaceful moments of alone or meditation because you are preoccupied with projecting the image you believe you are expected to or with attempting to “cope” with your current situation. Living a life that is authentically yours and according to your values means that you are not just surviving, but thriving.
4. You find it hard to experience joy.
It is possible that you are living an inauthentic existence if you spend your time worrying about what others have or dwelling on what is missing in your life rather than being appreciative for the possibilities that have come your way.
The act of being phony implies that you are preoccupied with what you do not have, what others have rather than you, or what is wrong with your life. This deprives you of joy and happiness, which in turn leads to an increase in negative emotions.
5. Your health may be suffering.
If you are so stressed out by your daily activities that you are unable to appreciate them, this is a solid indication that your life is not particularly authentic.
It is detrimental to your health and happiness if you require regular massages to cope with your stress, or if you find yourself emotionally eating as a coping method as a result of your stress.
6. You care more about what others think than about your own beliefs.
Concentrating on what other people think is the most telling indicator of a fabricated existence. No one else should have a greater significance in your life than you. The most essential thing is that you are content with your life. When you learn to narrow your attention to only the things that matter to you, you can finally begin living the most authentic version of your life possible.
If you recognize any of these indicators in your own life, it may be time to begin creating a life that is uniquely yours and living the greatest life you possibly can.
The act of living an inauthentic existence does not just involve pretending to be someone you are not, but it also involves doing something you would rather not be doing.
Have you ever heard the phrase “do what you can now till you can accomplish what you want” before? What if you started doing more of what you want right now instead of later? Your life’s mission is to live joyously, and the more measures you take to do more of what you enjoy, the more likely it is that you will find yourself truly happy in your life.
When you’re truly happy, it radiates from inside, and you won’t feel the need to put on a show for others or conduct behaviors that make you feel anxious. What actions can you take today to do more of what you enjoy?
Consider doing my free 30-day Get to Know Me challenge to learn more about yourself and what makes you tick. You’ll learn more about yourself and what makes you tick by asking yourself additional questions.
It’s one of the first exercises I recommend to those who are seeking to figure out their life’s purpose since the questions posed are really effective at finding your purpose and assisting you in designing your best life.
I have always been fond of make-up ever since my adolescent days. I would try out different products on myself. With time I realized that while doing make-up can be fun, I also need to take care of my skin. I follow a strict skincare regime now and hope more people understand the importance of doing the same if they have access to the right products.